Words have power, something I have written about before. Taking them back and making them your own. Though sometimes there are whole phrases that take over your mind. I have recently been taking time to disavow them and make your own affirmation instead. Learning to fall in love with the things used against you. “You look like ten pounds of potatoes in a five-pound sack.” Those words ring in my ears with every piece of clothing I try on. Every…
There is a lot of porn out there, like seriously a lot. From sites that you can get for free, to those you can pay for clips made by various sex workers. Though one of my favorite places to find porn that I want to watch is always CrashPadSeries. Not only because of their ethical practices. But because it is easy for me to find porn featuring bodies that look close to mine. Without the fetishization that comes with ‘BBW’…
During my trip to Woodhull this year, I had the pleasure of sitting in on a number of panels. However, two stuck with me the hardest. Both having to do with body positivity. Both left me looking at how I interact with my own image on a daily basis. From the way I interact with my body to the media, I take in. I realized quickly that I needed to change what I was doing. Another thing was after I…
With 2020 on the horizon, a lot of things have been popping up about what has happened in the last decade. This has lead to a lot of fun information and cute memes. It also had me thinking about just how I have changed in the course of the last 10 years. Some of the milestones that I went through getting me to the place I am in today. 2010 At the start of the decade, I was three years…
Once again, I was delighted when I was able to attend the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit like I did last year. While I felt that my first year was a whirlwind of activity, this year was a little more subdued. Having learned some lessons from my previous attendance. The first being rooming with another blogger. I was very lucky to have the company of Indigo, who runs the blog Indigo is an Adult. This year I was lucky to have…
If pleasure is for all bodies, kink certainly is on that list of where many people find their pleasure. Though when you aren’t able bodied you have to change up how you make it work. Thankfully, there are things out there that can help. Not only for yourself, but for your partner as well. Once again, as with my blog post about sex toys, this is all from personal experience. My advice is very general because you know your body…
CW: Fatphobia, Depression, Body Issues, Avengers: Endgame Spoilers My boyfriend and I sit in the car headed to the theater. We have been seeing Marvel movies together since Captian America: Winter Soldier. He is the Bucky to my Steve. So Endgame was always something we knew was going to be a date night. As I navigate us to the nearest theater we start up a conversation. “Have you been spoiled at all?” I ask, knowing my answer is that I…
In what seems like a sea of sex toys. It can often be hard finding ones that work when your not an able-bodied individual. When you are testing them it can be overwhelming and sometimes even disappointing. Not every toy is made for every body. Not every body can use ever toy. But there are things to look for in your toys. That can make them work easier for your body. Please note, this is just meant to be taken…
Content Warning: Shaming of body and sexuality. Abusive relationships and language used during the relationship. Through the years, the relationship that I have had with my body has been a rocky one. From my childhood until now, I have struggled with my weight and looks. It is only been recently that I have been taking the leap to really start to love my body. I started to think about where it started, how it affected me, and the changes I…
Back in High School is when it started, I was okay with pictures being taken of me. So long as I never saw them. Then it changed to just never liking pictures. It was hard to look at my body. I hated it every day. Self-love was not my best skill. Eventually, I stopped taking my own pictures. It wasn’t until close to 2007 that I started to let myself take the rare selfie. Even today most of my social…