While 2020 has been a year, I got some great writing done this season. So just like in 2019, I have gathered the ones that really stood out to me. The ones that I think people shouldn’t have missed. And the ones that I was the proudest of. Favorite Review One of my earlier reviews in the year, but it also was a review that I had on the back burner for a long time. But my Helios has been…
CW: Transphobia, Mentions of Deadnaming All tweets shown here have been approved by their author. Save for Kinkly who likely wouldn’t respond as you will read why below. In the last few weeks, I went from being excited for being named one of not only Kinkly’s 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes but also one of the top LGBTQIA+ bloggers as well. Kinkly has in the past claimed that the list was an inclusive space for sex-positivity. But then it came out…
Almost two years ago, I was interviewed by Poly Role Models after getting to meet Kevin Patterson at my first Woodhull. Having been a follower of these interviews with others in the Polyamory community, I was honored to be on the list. It was through this interview, that I found my superpower when it comes to polyamorous relationships. One of the questions that gave me pause to think, was ‘What aspect of polyamory do you excel at?‘. My personal answer…
It is about this time of year that I would normally be writing about my conference experiences. But with the pandemic keeping us from gathering, they were all canceled in person. But I was lucky enough to attend the Sex Down South conference for the first time virtually. This year’s theme was focused on Sexuality and Spirituality, so my pull to go was strong. Not only did I learn a lot from the workshops that I attended, both during the…
To be very honest, I have had the Njoy Pure Wand in my toy collection for almost 10 years now. Splurging on myself for my birthday/holiday gift. And by splurge, I mean using all the points I had saved up on a certain site many sex toy bloggers used long ago. For me as a baby blogger, this was a pinnacle luxury toy to obtain. I remember taking it from the box, looking down at it as it sat couched…
Over the years I have been asked, why do I write sex toy reviews? There are so many things out there. Sex toy reviews are very niche compared to other categories because of the taboo. There are those that find it very frivolous or even undeeded. It is a sex toy? Why care what it can and cannot do? When in reality there are so many reasons why! One of my biggest reasons for this is a time when I…
Right now, I have quite a few toys in my backlog. I have drafts that are half done. Notes that are scribbled down. Testing that has been done. But right now it is hard to focus. Pandemic, protests, and politics. There are a lot of stressors at this time in the world. And that doesn’t even count any personal stressors either. All of it takes a toll on mental health. Which means my sex drive, pretty much at rock bottom….
Words have power, something I have written about before. Taking them back and making them your own. Though sometimes there are whole phrases that take over your mind. I have recently been taking time to disavow them and make your own affirmation instead. Learning to fall in love with the things used against you. “You look like ten pounds of potatoes in a five-pound sack.” Those words ring in my ears with every piece of clothing I try on. Every…
My last few years with gender have been, a rollercoaster of discovery when it comes to my pride as someone queer. It started with small steps before I came out as demigendered. I tested the waters with pronouns and how I felt. Finally settling happily with She/They for a lot of different reasons. I was lucky to have the safe spaces I did to test those waters. From there it was discovered that while I don’t identify as female, femme…
The one thing I often get asked when I mention living with seven other people. All of whom are either in a relationship or power dynamic either within or outside of our house. Is how do we keep track of everything? Not just the day today, but the who and what. Having covered the first, I wanted to cover the second! Because with that, brings spreadsheets! Yup! That is right we have a spreadsheet for this. Every six months (or…