10 Ideas to Spice Up Foreplay

10 Ideas to Spice Up Foreplay

Foreplay and the things leading up to a sexual encounter with a partner is a very important step of the greater whole. Though sometimes it can start to feel like it is just going through the motions to get to the end point, which can get tedious or even start to make sex feel like just work. So I have put together some fun ways to spice up your foreplay and heat things up in and out of the bedroom. Things that can not only be enjoyable, but experimental to really shake things up between you and a partner to get out of a particular rut. 

Play A Game

Sometimes what you need is to just relax, and games can be a great way to do that. There are numerous ones that you can find online for free, and there are also a lot of great sex games sold online or in your local sex toy shop. Get silly with some naughty Madlibs. Or try your luck with a pair of sex dice. You can even modify a non-sexual game to have an erotic edge. Strip monopoly, anyone?


Another way to relax, but this time with a more chill vibe. Massage can be a great way to connect with a partner before sex and get the blood flowing, which helps with arousal. You can set the mood with soft lights, music, and even different kinds of massage oils. From full body massage or just focusing on one area, it can really heat things up. It also is a great way to communicate what feels good and where. 

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Flirty text/pic

Sometimes scheduling can be a hassle when it comes to setting up time together. But with phones and the internet you can be connected with your partner at any time. Talk about what you want to do with them when you can finally be alone. Tease one another with spicy pictures or even videos. If you are afraid of your nudes getting out there, many chat programs already have features where you can send a picture, and it will self-destruct after one or two views. Sexting builds up the anticipation and can help get you into an aroused mental state. 

Erotic Reading

Pick out an erotic book and read it out loud. There is a wide array of erotic books both standalone stories and anthologies on the market to choose from, no matter what your tastes may be. And if books aren’t your thing, there are so many different writers out there putting out great content on places like AO3 and Literotica. The latter is also great for sharing with your partner for things you might be into, but aren’t sure how to broach the subject when it comes to particular tastes. 

Make a List

Settle in with a partner and draw up lists of things you want to do or have an interest in. Then you can compare and discuss with one another where you both feel on doing those activities together. Communication is one of the biggest keys when it comes to foreplay, so this can be a great way to get those talks flowing. You can make your own lists like a top ten or find any of the various premade lists out there. While the latter is normally thought to be made for those into BDSM, I honestly find them to be a great tool to use with any partner. 

Hire an Escort

This one has to be the spiciest option on the list and something that you want to make sure you have communication with your partner on. But an escort can be a great way to add a little fire to not just your foreplay, but a whole night. Escorts can be a variety of individuals, both male escorts and female escorts. There are also those who are non-binary, so there are lots of options. Not all escorts work with couples, but you can easily search to find those who do. From there it is all about what you are comfortable with: they can join in or just be there to watch. You can explore different fantasies and even different kinky things you might like to try. You will just want to make sure you communicate with the escort about what you are looking for and what they are able to do. 

Sex Toys

With the variety of sex toys on the market, there is something out there for everyone. You can also make a day of it shopping online with your partner or even going out to the local shops in your area for hands-on experience. Sex toys are a great accessory to your sexual experience to enhance and upgrade your playtime. And with so many options to choose from you can work with what you feel comfortable using. From your standard vibrator to remote control toys, there is something out in the world that will get you revved up.  

Sexy Media

They don’t call it Netflix and Chill for nothing. Curling up with a partner and sharing a movie or TV show that gets a little naughty can be a fun bit of foreplay. From a steamy romance, erotic thrillers, and sex comedy romps. It is another great way to relax together and let things just run a somewhat natural course. You might find something that you want to try or even a scenario for role-playing. I highly suggest checking out a list of the top 100 Sexiest Movies put together by Rotten Tomatoes. You are sure to find something that piques your interest! 

Dirty Talk

Dirty talk falls into the realm of communication just like a majority of this particular list. This is just the most direct form of it. Dirty talk does not have to be wild and over the top. It really can just be as simple as telling your partner things you would like to do to them. Or things that you want them to do with you. Wrap it up in your favorite fantasy or keep it simple. Indulge in the memory of a past sexual experience with them and how much you enjoyed it. The best part of this foreplay idea, is that you get to choose how you approach it. So it can be as tame or as filthy as you feel comfortable with.  


This one is my personal favorite. Role-play to me is a great way to get out of one’s own head by reveling in a particular fantasy. Sure, it can feel a little silly at first depending on the dynamic or scene. But laughing together is never a bad way to enjoy one another’s company. There are so many options for scenarios from your standard ones like naughty nurse or maid, to more elaborate setups like royalty and roguish pirate, deity and patron, or really whatever your imagination can come up with. It all comes down to what you and your partner come up with. You can be as serious or as strange as you please, even using some of the other ideas to elaborate on the fantasy even more. Monster role-play? There are sex toys that fill those roles if you want to step it up from a more human shape. Fantasy costume lingerie to get more into character. You can even get as simple as role-playing past events like wedding night, first time together, or a steamy date night. The ideas are boundless. 

Take on any role for exciting foreplay
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While this is only a list of ten things that you can do to raise the heat in your foreplay, there are so many other things, and even ones that might be specific to only you and your partner. Do you have any favorites that didn’t make the list? Or is there one from the list you especially enjoy? Let me know in the comments below.

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